Great Expectations

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It’s a beautiful thing to have hopes, dreams and vision, for without a vision or a plan I think people would perish. But is there such a thing as having too much ambition?

Today, I’m surrounded by a generation confused that the hustle to take care of their young families, buy clothes, or post likable pictures, lies in the scheme of the quick come up. We live in a world where instead of living to work, we work to live and that need for money and status kind of drowns out the very things this land was said to be built upon, such as, morals and integrity. We want so bad that we will do anything to get it.

We each have different motives; different reasons for doing what we do and how we do it, but does that justify stealing from your neighbor so that you can be supported? We have misunderstood what it means to really hustle and grind. When I think of hustling I think of 2 jobs, late nights studying for that masters degree, an internship and a meeting with the mayor in the morning. But in these growing times, it’s the “zoe,” the scams, the stealing, the lies and deception. I watch and hear of people going to great lengths for fast cash so that they can reach their goals. But is there no accountability for the lives disrupted on the way there? What bothers me the most is that no one even cares.

I’m seeing how consumed we are in our own ambitions and dreams that there is no second look to the people we step on to get to where we want to be. There’s no one to blame, we are just a part of society so eager to win the race that we’re off before anyone has given directions. Our situations and needs are different, but I think it’s safe to say our end result is the same… to be comfortably happy. I believe we can be, without hurting one another to do it.

I was inspired to write today. I stood right next to a group of seemingly innocent kids on the bus in Staten Island. The incoming rush of new passengers, ringing cellphones, people talking, “normal” public transportation behavior occurred until this girl snatches an older man’s phone right from his hand and runs off the bus. The bus is rattled. The older man wastes no time. He’s out of his seat and out of the back door running after the girl, who is no older than 14, with the gang of her friends chasing after him with alleged crowbars. The bus driver closes the door and pulls off to continue the bus route.

I can’t help but feel like we are losing sight of what it means to really go after our dreams. I think the tough times are seeping into the growing generation, implanting the idea that ambition is doing whatever you have to by any means, even if it means hurting those around you.I don’t have the answers; I admit I’ve been a slave to my dreams as well. I guess the first step in doing better is realizing you have to.

In ourselves

Originally posted on Cristian Mihai:

stars“The fault, dear Brutus, is not in our stars, but in ourselves.”William Shakespeare

They say everything happens for a reason. They believe in fate, in a certain alignment of the stars. They believe in all kinds of things. They want to put the blame on the universe (or certain parts of it), but not on themselves.

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Dangerously in Love…

Have you ever been so deep in love with someone that the feeling scared you?

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I’ve always questioned the authenticity of love in it of itself. It’s such a complex emotion, that it makes you do things, and say things, and feel so crazy. I think it makes people the craziest, me particularly, because it is the only emotion that I literally cannot control.

I have no say in who it is that I will love, how long I will love that person, and the hardest sometimes has been to pinpoint the very reason(s) why I love that person at all. Love makes me second guess myself, the things that I was once so sure about, the way in which I go about my day or even what it is that I want to say. Love makes me rewrite text messages to not only get whatever it is that I need to say out, but in the way most appealing to the person receiving it. Love makes me cuddle with my phone on the nights I can’t cuddle up with him. Love just… makes me.

It scares me more so than anything just because I’m willing to do and be anything for that person. I’m okay with putting myself aside, if it means that person will be just a little bit happier. But the best part for me is when they don’t even want me to.

I can hardly fully express the way love makes me operate. I guess that’s one of the hidden beauties of love, the simple fact that you just don’t know, but instead you simply…feel. Maybe the term scared is a bit much. Love isn’t so much scary, but instead so bold that depending on the situation it can be intimidating.

If there is anyone out there with a feeling at all similar to mine, I encourage you to take the challenge and love completely. There’s no sense of being afraid of the unknown or intimidating. We were built to last. The worst that can happen is what you thought was love simply wasn’t. But there’s another crazy thing about it… when it’s real, you just know.

-Kiana S.

 

Style is …

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I saw a commercial the other day, I forget what exactly the promotion was for. In the commercial, people were randomly shouting comments that were thoughts of themselves such as (don’t quote me on any of these) “I am more put together than most of my friends” or “I think highly of myself!” I don’t remember what they were shouting out exactly either, but the point of it all was that one should let style say whatever it is they feel for them. So, instead of randomly saying what it is you feel to people you don’t know, decreasing the awkward, allow the make up of your clothes to do it for you. I love that commercial, I couldn’t agree more!

Your sense of style, or fashion can be defined in various ways, from your perception and that of the people you come across daily. If you’re the type of person to wear your feelings and emotions, one might be able to tell that you rushed out of the house one morning because you weren’t as put together as you normally would be. But the point is, your style is what you make it. I think the young people of my generation have or more so want a hold on the “finer things in life” such as the Gucci, Fendi, Louis Vuitton, Marc Jacobs, Yves Saint Laurent, and the others, so much so that they have lost the true beauty and definition of what style and fashion can really be. But then again, I guess one can say that I’m contradicting myself given what I said earlier.

I guess what it is for me is, when I think of fashion, the genuine art of putting together one’s expression and personality with the combination of fabrics, I don’t always think about spending my life’s saving on a belt. I don’t always think about saving up to purchase one or two items that can in turn average out to many different outfits. Please don’t get me wrong though, as a female there are a couple of name brand things that a girl should just have, but there’s a difference between wearing a brand and having the brand wear you. I know so many men and female that will buy certain name brand products and smash them together and think they’re doing something spectacular, or even deck themselves out in a complete LV outfit but still manage to look ridiculous. People have become walking advertisements for these products in the worst ways!

Fashion, to me is not about what you have, but instead how you work what you have. True fashion is daring, bold, exciting and it’s supposed to showcase what words can’t. In reference to the picture above, Micah Ginnaeli a fashion driven woman, shows exactly that. She is confident in her piece and presents herself that way. An all-white ensemble with a kiss of silver and red lining. I don’t know what exactly she is wearing and honestly I don’t care, she is chic.

Style is you. But I’ve heard people say that they don’t care about fashion and that those who do, lack real motivation and don’t understand what’s really going on, but I disagree. Whether you plan your outfits, or wake up and throw anything on, you still feed into the nature of what fashion is, you just don’t care about your perception.

Style is edgy, chic, subtle, classy, preppy and everything in between. Magazines like ELLE and Vogue, promote high fashion, an example of what one can emulate if you want to but on your terms. Give in and by that jacket and those riding boots for the Fall. Pair it with a hat and matching twill scarf. Feel good about yourself when you look at yourself in the mirror that last time before you leave, and once you’re out there put on a show! Fashion is an art, and you are the artist. Use your body as a canvas and paint daily masterpieces. Leave trails of your trends every where you go and watch how far it can take you… you’d be surprised the distance.

 

One Man’s Trash…

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Ever had something be so wonderful, it felt almost to good to be true?

Have you ever been hurt so many times that even with the best thing in life staring you in the eye, you still can’t believe?

I think it’s natural to be afraid of trying something new when you’ve continuously put yourself on the line, only to be left there yet again. But living in fear of the unknown is worst than any kind heartbreak.

I’ve been in a trying relationship, given all that have and tried everything to prove something to someone that didn’t even deserve my hello. I loved someone with all my young heart and watched him choose someone else. Because a pain like that was so foreign to me, it hurt. The thoughts still hurt.

But time passed, and although the cliché can be tiresome, time began to mend my wounds. And with time came someone else. Someone else who wants and loves me not only for who I am but also for what I stand for. Someone who believes in the beauty of my dreams and has so much faith in them, he’d bet it all on me. And while doing this, he himself is driven. I see nothing but success in his future because its raw passion and drive that pushes him… and he just wants to share it with me.

I’m hesitant. It’s also natural that I should be, but if its worth it patience it necessary. Love isn’t nearly as hard as people make it out to be. It’s work to create, keep and spread love but it’s far from impossible. I believe situations like these are just the best way to show you who’s worth it and who isn’t.

Men and women both have intentions when getting into any relationship, and most of the time they let those intentions be known, it might not be verbally, but we all know how actions go. Getting hurt is a part of the cycle, we just have to be prepared and ready to learn from it and let go.

One mans trash is truly another mans treasure; it’s just up to us to know where we stand.

 

Lovely.

 

A Kiss of Sun …

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There’s something about the wind hitting the branches on the trees making them sway to the melody of its music that prompts my fingers to move. Or maybe it’s the look of the snow rushing to meet the ground, the passing cars, or pretty much anything solid; wherever they where before, the snowflakes clearly don’t want to be anymore, so they move with speed from the sky, to meet us. But their stay here, might seem like forever, but is only temporary. Because shortly, the sun will shine again, ending their visit, almost forcing them to leave, disappear really – they won’t stand a chance.

This weather reminds me of the relationship between situation and people. Daily we go through different trials and tribulations, or problems that might seem like the end of the world – or our world. I know personally there have been days where I force the biggest smiles, just to hide the feeling of unhappiness and save myself from the concerns and questioning. There were times that on the brightest of days, I’ve felt like I was in the middle of this storm by myself, swaying like those trees, rushed by the problems and negative thoughts…

But then the sun came out, and just like the snow, it melted all the problems away, and I was able to breath again. I think we take our “problems” to seriously, or at least I can say I honestly do. Whether it be situations with, work, school, loved ones or relationships – we can never let a situation become to great. Every storm will come to an end, at the end of every dark tunnel is always a light. A couple cliches are always the best way to rap up lol. I guess the moral is, storms like this one will come in our lives. Like the snow, they’ll seem to come right at you and attempt to stick, but with the kiss of the sun to the snow, or with prayer, your problems will sure to disappear.

 

As always.. Lovely.

The thing about love…

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My best friend is currently in a long distance relationship, like really long, I’m talking Minnesota long. Or is it Michigan? I always forget, nevertheless they aren’t walking distance from each other lol. Well anyway, when she first brought the idea to me, the idea of managing a relationship strictly via phone calls and Skype, I thought she was mad. A crazy person. Absolutely out of her mind. In my mind, they’re relationship would be artificial, I didn’t think they would have a successful couple of days let alone anything more than that. But as quickly as they came are as quickly as they left, as I watched those days turn to weeks, and those weeks to months, into what now is almost a year. Way to prove me wrong. A love as genuine and veritable as theirs, you only see in movies. Even I, a witness to the madness can’t believe its actuality. And when they finally had the opportunity to see each other for the second time, over this winter vacation, it was as if nothing else mattered. To have gotten the chance to not only spend two weeks together, but open the new year physically hand in hand, is a blessing individually designed. It’s almost as if, all those days, weeks and months apart meant nothing, because together, if only for a small time, the worst was over.

See, I guess the thing about love is its stronger than we use it for. Love and life, they’re a balance necessary for the survival of the heart, and the sooner we realize it, the sooner maybe each of us can have just a bit of what my best friend has. In order to achieve and maintain happiness, not the rapper lifestyle happy, but genuine happiness, you have to live, love, let go, and let God. Not everything and everyone that comes into your life will be worth keeping. Sometimes people come in your life to teach you to let go, and sometimes the people and things that are meant to be there come in unexpected ways. The key is to keep your heart open. The fairytale happily ever after isn’t necessarily impossible, one just has to be willing to create it.

We only have this one life, we might as well love and live it. Find someone that makes you ridiculously happy, take silly pictures, go on adventures and love with every bit of your heart. If you don’t, what’s the point?

LoveLy …

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