Work and Life – That is the balance

Work and Life – That is the balance

gettyimages-170068121-1024x1016In the creative field, I’m constantly reading articles, interviews, and posts about how to maintain a work/life balance or how to grasp the daunting reality that there isn’t one and everyone just needs to deal with it. Some pretty intense thoughts to say the least, however, I’ve found equilibrium.

My life motivates my work. I recently went through a pretty confusing break up with my 10-year long boyfriend, I’ll spare the gruesome details but my reality was sleepless nights and tear stained pillows for weeks. Unfortunately everything seemed to fall out of place during the holidays so I found myself entering the New Year broken-hearted, hurt, and oddly distracted.

At first, I was so consumed in my feelings of loss and sadness that there were days that I stayed in bed. But it was in lying there sulking that I realized the story behind my pain and began to write. By putting a name to these feelings, a timeline, characters, and just the realness of my situation into words I found comfort. I went back to work after the holiday break with a fire from the story that I had written and shared with friends. I decided to throw myself into work whole heartedly despite what was going on around me.

Often times, I feel like women have two ways of dealing with emotional distress or just relationship issues. Either we’re so sad it’s all we think about in this seemingly depressed state for a while or we try to completely distract our hearts by busying ourselves with anything else. For me finding this balance was almost balancing both of those. Putting this focus on work and writing wasn’t to distract my pain but instead use it my benefit.

I got to work about 2 hours early daily and really went into grind mode, translating my feelings into focus on all things for my team brand. How can we scale? What can I be doing better to get us to where we need to go? What will the rest of this year look like? This is my balance. Not only feeling but truly being productive despite the flaws in my life made up for the loss I was experiencing. While I know my work won’t comfort me at night, during the day, however, I find peace in productivity.

I can’t say that this particular way of thinking can be an end all be all for all, but it can be a shift of mindset for those who may be experiencing similar situations. Life will always be a factor, it will throw curveballs at us when we least expect it that sometimes may boost our confidence or maybe hurt it. But if we have work that  we really care about and work we enjoy, that work can and should motivate us and work for us with life’s battles. Way easier said than done for sure, but what do we have to lose?

Style is …

Style is …

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I saw a commercial the other day, I forget what exactly the promotion was for. In the commercial, people were randomly shouting comments that were thoughts of themselves such as (don’t quote me on any of these) “I am more put together than most of my friends” or “I think highly of myself!” I don’t remember what they were shouting out exactly either, but the point of it all was that one should let style say whatever it is they feel for them. So, instead of randomly saying what it is you feel to people you don’t know, decreasing the awkward, allow the make up of your clothes to do it for you. I love that commercial, I couldn’t agree more!

Your sense of style, or fashion can be defined in various ways, from your perception and that of the people you come across daily. If you’re the type of person to wear your feelings and emotions, one might be able to tell that you rushed out of the house one morning because you weren’t as put together as you normally would be. But the point is, your style is what you make it. I think the young people of my generation have or more so want a hold on the “finer things in life” such as the Gucci, Fendi, Louis Vuitton, Marc Jacobs, Yves Saint Laurent, and the others, so much so that they have lost the true beauty and definition of what style and fashion can really be. But then again, I guess one can say that I’m contradicting myself given what I said earlier.

I guess what it is for me is, when I think of fashion, the genuine art of putting together one’s expression and personality with the combination of fabrics, I don’t always think about spending my life’s saving on a belt. I don’t always think about saving up to purchase one or two items that can in turn average out to many different outfits. Please don’t get me wrong though, as a female there are a couple of name brand things that a girl should just have, but there’s a difference between wearing a brand and having the brand wear you. I know so many men and female that will buy certain name brand products and smash them together and think they’re doing something spectacular, or even deck themselves out in a complete LV outfit but still manage to look ridiculous. People have become walking advertisements for these products in the worst ways!

Fashion, to me is not about what you have, but instead how you work what you have. True fashion is daring, bold, exciting and it’s supposed to showcase what words can’t. In reference to the picture above, Micah Ginnaeli a fashion driven woman, shows exactly that. She is confident in her piece and presents herself that way. An all-white ensemble with a kiss of silver and red lining. I don’t know what exactly she is wearing and honestly I don’t care, she is chic.

Style is you. But I’ve heard people say that they don’t care about fashion and that those who do, lack real motivation and don’t understand what’s really going on, but I disagree. Whether you plan your outfits, or wake up and throw anything on, you still feed into the nature of what fashion is, you just don’t care about your perception.

Style is edgy, chic, subtle, classy, preppy and everything in between. Magazines like ELLE and Vogue, promote high fashion, an example of what one can emulate if you want to but on your terms. Give in and by that jacket and those riding boots for the Fall. Pair it with a hat and matching twill scarf. Feel good about yourself when you look at yourself in the mirror that last time before you leave, and once you’re out there put on a show! Fashion is an art, and you are the artist. Use your body as a canvas and paint daily masterpieces. Leave trails of your trends every where you go and watch how far it can take you… you’d be surprised the distance.